I was having one of those days. You know, the kind of day where you do something really stupid and then beat yourself up over it for several days after. Here I was thinking ‘what was wrong with me, why have I not learnt this yet?’ So there I was well into day four of whipping myself – you know how it works, you start dredging up past wrongs, one after another, months and then before you know it a few years’ worth, and to make matters worse you heap those on top of the current ‘wrong’ you did. Pretty soon you’ve got a dark cloud following you around. Not to mention that extra weight on your back and you’re walking around all hunched over and angry. Mad at yourself for being so stupid, mad for trusting, seeing yourself as a total screw up, over and over and over. Geez Louise.
This month Valentine’s Day was celebrated, like any other year. If you are madly in love, this day would have been a very special day to celebrate with your partner. You might have put lots of thought into it – the perfect card or gift, flowers, a sumptuous candle-lit dinner and romantic music in the background.
But not everyone will be celebrating the love. It could be a day reminding you what you no longer have, the hurt you feel or the betrayal by another. Mending a broken heart is never easy; it’s much safer to keep it closed than feel the pain. There is no quick way to stop your heart
For most of my life, being an empath in a world where being emotional equaled being weak or foolish it was hard to manage my emotions. In order for me to cope I would disconnect from them and became a “Bobblehead”, always in my head ‘thinking’. Perhaps you can you relate? Always stuck in your head, constantly rehashing your thoughts and not really getting anywhere. Maybe a little control-freak issue creeping in various situations? Yes you have those goals or “To do lists’ and when you get to achieve them there’s that ’empty feeling’ and you’re onto the next thing?
The most important lesson I have had to learn is that Feelings Buried Alive never Die!
With all our best intentions and goals, why is it so hard for us to slow down, simplify our lives, and take better care of ourselves? Why do most of our ‘New Year Resolutions’ fall short or peter out?
Why are we so afraid to let go and embrace a new way of being? Is Change really that scary when deep down we really yearn for it?
As a society our drive to attain and keep ‘busy’ comes at a great cost to our soul. We are malnourished when it comes to compassionate self-acceptance, awareness, and care. We yearn for a simpler, less stressful life, but struggle to find it. We ache for balance but can’t sustain it. There is no time to juggle it all, let alone clear the things and thoughts that have caused us to feel so overwhelmed in the first place.
Stop and take a good, hard look at who (or what) is taking up space in your life. If you want change to be effective in your life this year it starts withAWARENESS. You can’t change what you are not aware of. We all have blind spots, things we know deep down are swirling away but we avoid looking at for many reasons. Until we do and are completely honest with ourselves we are doomed to pass another year of carrying around what is weighing us down, holding us back from being who really wish to be and living the life we really want.
Tips to keep you out of trouble & jail during the Crazy Holiday Season
But Santa I can explain…..the twins spiking the Egg Nog had nothing to do with Aunt Mabel breaking into Sea World & trying to ‘free Willie’, or the fact that Grandma tried to ignite the Christmas turkey by using the blow torch as it ‘was taking too long’. I’m sure Santa has heard it all before and maybe you have a similar story, perhaps an Uncle Claude or a Grandpa. Either way there is a fine line between naughty and nice. It’s called “Mischievously Creative’, but not sure if anyone in the family agrees.
As wonderful as the holidays are for many – for some, holiday stress sometimes overshadows the good cheer of the season. While it is generally acknowledged that “the holidays” are stressful, most people seem to just accept that it will be stressful and continue their holiday tradition of being stressed out during the “silly season”.
Do you feel that you have lost your sparkle? Life is guaranteed to knock us all down a time or two. What’s important is that we get back up. The hard part is overcoming the apathy that comes with loss of energy and feeling a little ‘meh’. We’ve all been there; everything sucks, everyone is stupid & in your way, you can’t do anything right and nothing is ever going to get any better.
When you were little and the teacher asked what you wanted to be when you grew up, you surely didn’t answer “miserable!” At every stage in life, unhappiness is not a state to which we aspire. Emerging research shows that while the impact of life’s circumstances has a profound impact on the brain, the brain is not as hard-wired as previously thought. We can learn & retrain ourselves to be happier.
When you’re in a funk it can be really, really hard to see your way out of it. I’ve experienced my fare share of funks & it’s good to wallow in it for a while, as staying with the emotion and embracing it can bring about some insights. But having said that we don’t need to stay there forever, as like Thich Nhat Hanh (a Zen spiritual teacher) says we might “miss the wonders of life”. So I want to provide you with some easy, practical ways that have helped me get out of that nasty funk!
Is it me or does it feel like the whole world is going crazy? I would say yes to both of those questions. We’ve all heard of it…the dreaded time when Mercury goes retrograde. Geez Louise! And to top it all the full moon (known this time as the Bloodmoon because of it’s vibrant redish colour) had to add it’s two cents into the mix. Holy smokes, for anyone sensitive to cyclical energy spurts you might have felt you were on a speed wobble! There are certain cycles where the energy feels confusing and ungrounded and it’s not uncommon to for you to react emotionally & feel ‘out of sorts’.
Most of us dread Mercury in retrograde. We think of it as an extremely negative period, a frustrating time filled with irritating technical problems, confused communications, and mishaps. Mercury in retrograde often gets a bad rap, but this is also a great & optimal time to let go and clean up as well. At this time patterns can be broken now as you tune into what is not working in your relationships or in your life. With the powerful energy your intuitive abilities will be heightened along with your emotions.
If you are like me, at times you probably catch yourself falling into the ever-alluring yet emotionally-dangerous trap of comparing yourself to others. On one hand we unconsciously do this in an attempt to make accurate evaluations of ourselves, perhaps for personal growth. But at what cost? While comparison can be a valuable source of motivation and growth, it can also spin us into a tail-chasing frenzy of self-doubt.
This brings me to an experience I had recently at an event where I was showcasing my new book on Forgiveness as well as a Soul Vision Board workshop with a twist. Out the corner of the eye I caught this woman who had just come through the door make a beeline for me. Being an empath I felt a woosh of energy come charging ahead of the woman. Lets just say it was not a pretty pink loving colour but more of a sharp cutting edgy feel.
When you’ve been through a major, life-changing event, it’s only normal to spend time getting over it. But when you’re OVER getting over it, and want to find happiness again, how do you do that? Well, this August, your days of wondering and struggling are over. My friend Lois McCullough has put together an amazing online event, with 21 loss and happiness experts, who will inspire you to bring happiness and joy back into your life, and to move forward from now on, with renewed energy and a greater sense of purpose and fulfillment. I’m excited to be a guest speaker as part of The Art of Happiness after Loss Telesummitand I can’t wait for you to join me! The 21-day online tele-summit event begins on August 1st, and it’s FREE! Yes it’s FREE, no obligation but just to listen.Click here to reserve your seat! Art of Happiness after Loss TelesummitWhen you are ready to get back into a joyful life, it’s nice to know there are others out there who are ready, and eager, to support you.Continue reading →
This post on my Facebook business page really spoke to people. As a business owner with a business page on Facebook offering inspiration and tips to people via FB can be challenging at times. The reason being Facebook continuously evolves and over time has reduced the number of times a post is displayed in my reader’s newsfeed. So when this post went viral with over 33 000 shares and reaching over 2 million readers I was a little taken back. The words on this post seemed to resonate with so many I wondered about all the stories they might have to share. How they might be struggling with fear, doubt or are even in crisis, how they might have moved forward after loss and found happiness again. I wondered….
What happens when the road gets foggy? When you’ve lost your path and no longer know what you’re working towards anymore, even though there’s that nagging feeling, that whisper of a voice inside your head gently urging you to push on? From time to time we all stand at crossroads in our lives. What happens when you’ve lost your way and just want to collapse at the crossroads? Continue reading →
“The best thing one can do when it’s raining is to let it rain.” ~Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
It’s been raining as I write up this week’s blog. The rain is welcome as all the spring gardens come to life in Canada. All this rain has me thinking & feeling about what the water element teaches us. During my Soul Coaching course we dedicate a whole week to the energy of this element and it’s lessons.
What kind of feeling does a rainy day evoke in you? Do you even notice a difference in how you feel? For some people rain creates a sense of coziness, a nesting feeling, some a cleansing. For others, too much rain creates a feeling of dread & sadness. Pay attention to your feelings, they are signposts offering you more information about you. And the more you learn about yourself, you will be able to hear your soul more clearly. Continue reading →
I posted this picture recently on my Facebook page which got a lot of response and created a debate. I wanted to discuss the concept of what this means as perhaps it might resonate with you. It was brought on by an article I had read where on the our deathbed one of the 5 regrets was “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, and not the life others expected of me.”
Whose life are you living? Do you live to please others at the expense of living a life which reflects your very own values, and which pleases you? Is your life directed by the expectations of others or by chance? Continue reading →
Nelson Mandela, Mother Theresa, Martin Luther King, Maya Angelou, Gandhi, Mala Yousafzai . These are the people we look up to everyday, who inspire us & challenge us by the changes they have made & continue to make in this world . So what makes us admire them? The challenges and obstacles they’ve faced throughout their lives as they struggled to make a difference in this world were not always easy. They all have one fundamental thing in common—-Forgiveness.
I’m Di Riseborough, a transformational speaker, Intuitive life Strategist, featured on the Oprah Winfrey Network, and author of the Amazon #1 Best Seller Forgiveness: How to let go when it still hurts. Click Here